What is your favorite role?
- Published in Valeria Vilar Psychotherapy Articles
What is your favorite role?
By ValeriaVilar, MA, BEd, LMHC
Each family builds a unique bond characterized by its own rules, values, customs and codes.
Each family member plays a specific role, a function, which helps to maintain a family balance or homeostasis.
In our professional experience, we have seen how within a family it is always the same person who “calms things down” when a conflict arises; while another member is the one who always “looks the other way” and points fingers for what is going, never taking responsibility whatsoever; and sometimes there is another member who is always interrupting with irrelevant remarks to distract others or to draw their attention; or there might be someone who -from a rational point of view- tries to gather as much information as possible to reach a resolution.