Something more than roses and chocolate.

By Valeria Vilar, MA, BEd, LMHC

This month romantic hopes and expectations arise in Valentine’s Day. Singles expect to find the special one and couples expect to enhance their relationship through expression of affection and gifts. The tradition of giving red roses and chocolates hearts or by sending valentines has made the 14th of February a very joyful day in the calendar.  Like every other day, like every other celebration, Valentine’s Day brings opportunities, not always wishes made true. We find on February 14^th a precise mirror of our identity, the sum of our virtues and defects, and a new learning opportunity to improve our lives. Singles and couples are frequently facing disappointment with unmet expectations based on false assumptions and lack of communication.

For unattached singles or those that recently went through a break up, divorce or death, Valentine’s Day can be particularly challenging, but also the best moment to refocus their energies in other types of relationship that are not romantic, to appreciate those closest to them, to clarify their relationships goals and help calibrate their expectations and hope for this celebration.

Halloween treats

By Valeria Vilar, MA, BEd, LMHC

Halloween is a very popular celebration among adults. It’s popularity goes beyond helping their children choose costumes, or go trick or treating with them.

It is the one night of the year, where it is socially accepted for adults to express their fantasies, characterizing them through costumes, without feeling judged or embarrassed.

Although this celebration is linked to ghosts, zombies, vampires and monsters, This night also offers an opportunity for couples to have a sexy celebration.