
The heat is on! Plan wonderful vacations this summer
The month of June, school ends, the temperatures rise, and the breeze is soft and warm. Summer colors shine in the flowers, the colorful dresses, and people's tan bodies. The so longed for summer vacations are here.
What can we do to fully enjoy this so desired vacation time?
If we keep in mind that the amount of time we have for vacation is not what matters most, we'll be able to focus in what's really important — what we do with that time.
So, we should start with a positive attitude, and adjust our expectations so they are not too ambitious and turn into frustration later. Determine the main purpose of vacations as an opportunity to take care of ourselves, and to enjoy those things we like most. Think of it as a vaccine to stress and everyday routine.
The solution to our problems is not to rest in expensive places or to buy tour packages that promise to entertain us. The idea is to learn how to enjoy what we have available for us and use it in a creative way so we can get the most out of it instead of longing for things we cannot reach. Just like children, they don't need expensive toys to have fun, sometimes just a stick is enough, when they put desire and imagination into the game.
We each have our own preferences and it is good to think about what brings us pleasure in summer time. Be aware of what we are able to do with our free time, and discover what entertains us when we put to rest our work and obligations. When a person gets depressed or bored during vacation, it may be because he does not know what to do with his time when he is not working.
It is advisable to get organized so you keep no contact with work or with those routine activities from which you want to take a break.
Do not idealize your vacations, so you won't end up feeling like it wasn't what you expected, and not valuing the pleasant things they did bring.
Plan with those that will be spending vacations with you, so everyone's expectations can be satisfied.
Learn from your mistakes, think about previous vacations, and if you've been deceived or frustrated afterward, find out why, and don't fall in the same pattern.
Share responsibilities. Everyone is entitled to release stress and relax equally.
Plan activities so each person can enjoy what they like. Don't plan only around the kids' entertainment, or only about the adults' relaxation. Mix in activities that are fun for each of the members of the group.
Allow yourself to enjoy the small things, and live every moment in a relaxed pleasant way.
Vacation time is an opportunity to develop what is authentic and original inside each of us, and this reflects positively in those around us. Summer is a time to retrieve the rarely exercised right to personal fulfillment. Allow yourself to relax, enjoy and create spaces to get away from stress causing routines. Having fun, relaxing and laughing are all healthy and represent a way to fight stress, depression, and anxiety, and to distract our attention away from our worries. Happy summer and a great vacation time for everyone!

Valeria Vilar, MA, BEd, LMHC
Clinical Director of Open Mind Psychotherapy & Wellness Center.
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